I personally know the journey to Self Love is a hard one... everywhere we turn we are constantly being told and shown that we are not good enough...
But the biggest lesson I have learned is that we need to stop outsourcing our worth.
We cannot let other people determine our worth.
Or let social media determine what bodies are sexy.
We have to take radical responsibility for our on well-being.
There are BILLIONS of women on this planet... how could we expect to all have one body type?
So with that being said, I wanted to share 3 super EASY ways to love yourself more...
Are you ready?
1. Stop trying to do everything and be everything to everyone.
Saying no is so damn hard for us women. It’s like we are programmed to think we have to be able to do ALL THE THINGS for everyone...while never recharging or doing anything for ourselves....
News Flash though babe, it’s not possible. It's not possible to do all the things.
I remember seeing other women online that have clean houses all the time and then the ones who cook these gourmet vegan, gluten-free, non-GMO, dairy-free meals for their kids OR the ones whose kids are in every sport possible…
Like, how the hell do they do it all??
I constantly didn’t feel good enough. But here is what I know now after (lots of) therapy and talking to lots of women.
No-one has it all together.
The woman whose kids are in those sports, probably aren’t making home-made gourmet meals made from scratch.
Or the woman whose house is immaculate may be serving mac and cheese for dinner more often than not (no shame here babe)
Either way… it does not matter which one you are as long as you realize that you cannot do everything. Not alone anyway.
So, stop trying to do everything.
You have to come to realize that doing your best is enough.
And sometimes your best is mac and cheese and staying in pajamas all damn day.
And I’m here for it!! I'm here to cheer you on!
2. Be gentle with yourself
Listen, this one has been hard for me.
And if you are anything like me then this may be hard on you too.
Anytime I mess up, I used to be SO damn hard on myself.
I left no margin for error.
I had this expectation that I had to have it all together all the time.
I couldn’t F*ck anything up
And if I did, I had to punish myself. I said horrible things to myself..
“Ughh, i’m such an idiot”
“Why am I like this?”
“I can’t get anything right”
But then I had kids.
I remember my son trying to walk over and over and over and over.
He kept falling down but then he would get back up.
And I would be cheering on, telling him how amazing he is. I would be SO damn proud of him.
When he fell I would say “uh oh!”
That was it… I wouldn’t say “ wow you idiot, again?”
And then it clicked.
Could I just say “uh oh” to myself when I fell? When I let the ball drop? When I messed up?
I mean, beating myself up wasn’t doing anything for me...just left me feeling more deflated.
So here I am to tell you that you don’t have to beat yourself up anymore… you get to be gentle… you get to say “uh oh” and move on!
3. Create space for alone time
Do you have a morning routine or evening routine?
Do you create space for alone time?
From experience, it's so important to have time to fill your own cup.
When I say "create space" this is what I mean... take time to fill your cup.
Because if you don't you will become tired, exhausted and maybe even bitter.
And feeling bitter or resentment is the biggest energy sucker.
Here's the honest truth:
The most giving, loving and compassionate people say "no" and take time to fill their cup because when they DO give, they give wholeheartedly. Without expectations. Without conditions.
That is why it's SO important to create space for yourself to recharge.
So you can give without feeling resentful or mad.
So you can give from the purest part of your heart.
Some of the things I love to do to recharge are:
Saying Positive Affirmations
Going on a walk alone
For more ideas on how to fill your cup you can download my FREE Self Love Guide that's available on my homepage, head here and scroll down till you see it :)
Maybe for you it is yoga or breathwork or sewing... just find what works for you and commit.
So, those are my 3 actually SIMPLE ways to love yourself more....
I challenge you to commit to one of them for 30 days... and see how you feel after doing it.
Remember life is full of choices. Choose YOU. Choose Self Love.
Love, sunshine & hugs to you all,